Tag Archives: Happiness

What You Hope for is Guaranteed – Part Four

When you are moving in the direction of what you hope for, you start to get excited – you’re all set for the change and are ready to enjoy all the fabulousness of your new life. And there is silence…….just … Continue reading →

What You Hope for is Guaranteed – Part Three

Most people have it backwards – they believe if they get thin enough, rich enough, have the right job, right relationship or the right degree, then they will be worthy. It’s actually the opposite – when you feel worthy, then those things that you hope for have an easier time coming to you. However, there are some things that you may have tried in vain to change that frustrate you to no-end! You went for your goal – full out – but still, what you hoped for eluded you. You got frustrated, disgusted and mad at yourself. You felt as though you were back to square one (or worse) and you couldn’t figure out what went wrong. Continue reading →

What You Hope For is Guaranteed – Part Two

Before you are able to get your Guarantee (as described in part 1) it is important to understand exactly what “Hope” is. I like the definition of Hope that comes from C.R. Snyder who describes it not as an emotion but as the combination of three different cognitive processes. I found Snyder’s work in Brene Brown’s excellent book The Gifts of Imperfection. Continue reading →

What You Hope for is Guaranteed – Part One

We are not supposed to go through the motions of life. We are supposed to fully live it with all of our heart and you – whoever you are – no matter how lost, lonely and afraid you are – no matter what you’ve done or what’s been done to you – no matter how many times you’ve tried and failed – no matter who you’ve lost – no matter how much pain you carry – no matter what – you still get to Hope and What You Hope for – deep, deep down inside – is Guaranteed. There are no exceptions. Continue reading →

The Magical Psychological Powers of AND

One of the first things I tell new counseling or coaching clients is my favorite word because it has magical psychological powers. That magical word is AND. You might be thinking that it is a lame favorite word, but it really has some magical properties AND you need to know them because using it more often can bring you more peace, insight, problem solving powers, self-love and relief. Continue reading →

Choosing To Heal

Healing isn’t just something that happens. It’s not like one day you’re in dysfunction and the next day you’re not. You actually have to make the choice to do your personal growth work to heal. Continue reading →

Communication & Relationships

We’ve all heard that communication is an important factor in relationships. We know this, but why is it so hard? I believe it is because there are three obstacles we face in achieving goal to better our communication. Continue reading →

A Key to Happiness is Forgiveness of Self and Others

We simply cannot live our potential while we are harboring resentments against ourselves and others. But, it’s important to know that the practice of forgiveness is actually an act of self-interest and not about another person at all. Continue reading →