No, really. It is. I promise. I know that it's hard to believe when you are living a life you don't really like all that much, but it's true. It's true if you feel completely overwhelmed, trapped and depressed by almost every aspect of your life. In other words - you're sick and tired of being sick and tired. It's true if you have all the trappings of a successful life and have "nothing to complain about," yet you feel an emptiness inside. It's true if your life doesn't completely suck, but it also doesn't make your heart sing either. And it's true if things are going pretty well, but you have a few things that you would like to be different. You deserve to live fully and experience what you want out of life it's what you are meant to do - and you know that to your core.
We are not supposed to "go through the motions" of life. We are supposed to fully live it with all of our hearts and you - whoever you are - no matter how lost, lonely and afraid you are - no matter what you've done or what's been done to you - no matter how many times you've tried and failed - no matter who you've lost - no matter how much pain you carry - no matter what - you still get to Hope and What You Hope for - deep, deep down inside - is Guaranteed. There are no exceptions.
Notice how your energy has changed since you've been reading this. What you're feeling is a spark of Hope and it is alive and well inside you. (If you happen to be angry or annoyed at what you're reading, then most likely you are still thinking you're the exception and you're too broken or too dark or too far gone. That's okay. It's not true, but it's okay that you still think that. But, I have good news for you: you are still reading and that means that Hope is still in there somewhere - it's just hard to get to right now. That's okay - Hope will find it's way back to you).
I am here to tell you that you don't ever have to feel hopeless again because you absolutely - 100% - can create a life that is full of purpose and that brings you peace, joy and the good stuff you want.
So let's get to the how I can make such an audacious claim. This is not a "I found my Hope and got the Guarantee and so can you!" statement (although that is true). And I don't make that proclamation because my work as a counselor and life coach has allowed me to witness it happen over and over again in the lives of my clients (although that is also true). I don't think either of those is enough to make such a grand statement that the Hope that you have for your life is Guaranteed. How do I know - and I mean know it can happen for you?
Because it is simply cause and effect.
For every cause, there's an effect, right? So in your life what is the effect? The effect is the life you're living. So that means the life you are living has a cause. What's the cause? It's your choices. We are always, always, always living the effects of our choices. Another way I like to say it is that we are always living the consequences (effect) of our choices (cause).
This is huge. Read it one more time: You are always living the consequences of your choices. So that means, if you make different choices, you can have a different effect. That is the same thing as saying if you make choices in the direction of the life you want to live, then you will be living the life you want to live.
Voila. Hope (Cause) is Guaranteed (Effect).
Okay, so there is more (which is why this article is only Part One in a series). If there was ever a concept to fit the 12 Step dictum "simple, but not easy," this is it. And for those of you who are already beating yourself up by thinking that the bad things in your life are "your fault" - you can stop because it isn't. I'm talking about Hope here and Hope has nothing to do with "fault."
In the coming weeks, I will continue to guide you through the process so that it makes more sense and so you can apply it to your life. Feeling hopeful? Me too!!
An Important Note: There are exceptions to make about cause and effect and there are some consequences that no one asks for. Children are living the effects of their parents choices and are not responsible for the effects in their lives and usually don't have the resources to make changes. (Interestingly, they seem to have a lot of Hope in spite of that, don't they?) I also understand that poverty and being a true victim of violence or violent and/or discriminatory people or systems are not choices. Physical limitations and mental illness are not choices. I am also not talking about accidents or natural disasters. (However, I do know of people who have lived through some or almost all of these and have somehow found Hope.) If you are living in a hopeless place right now - my heart truly, truly goes out to you and I will hold on to Hope on your behalf.